PLUS SIZE POWER: I WANT YOU TO KNOW YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL TODAY

I want you to stop right now. Copy and paste this. Print it. Whatever. Just save this and read it whenever you can. I want you to know that right now, here in this moment, you are the most beautiful thing I have ever seen.

I don’t care if your make up is on point or if your hair got blown off during your commute. I don’t care if your ensemble got wet with either sweat or the rain outside. Even if your eye bags are so deep like the Atlantic Ocean… I want you to know that you’re beautiful today.

If you got discolored skin, pimples or acne wherever, I want you to know that you are amazing just the way you are. Even if you don’t feel confident about your teeth because it’s yellow or it has a gap, that’s just one of the many unique things about you.

And tell you what? I tell you. I am not the only one that thinks you look beautiful today. Your colleagues around you? As you passed by, I’m pretty sure one of them wished they were you. One of them wondered --- “How the hell does she do it? She walks in and out of this office all kept and together. How the F*CK does she do it? What’s the secret?”

Even if you are unemployed, if you went out to do some particular errand in a nearby store, rest assured, you have made someone out there stop in bewilderment. It may be the clothes you are wearing. Your flawless and flawed skin. Your amazing eyes. Your cute nose. Anything. A man out there stopped and appreciated you in all angles as you have passed by.
It’s inevitable.

You’re an Erzulliesta. Your confidence and fierceness is so strong, you don’t even have to do anything. It just happens. You walk by and people just have to see. They just have to break their necks when you walk by. There’s something about you. It’s more than just your curves or the accessories you picked that way.

Maybe it’s your manners and the way you believe that even if you stepped out with a T-Shirt full of holes, bacon panties and unruly bra and “house shorts”, you are the fiercest curvy that ever walked the planet. Even if you are in your wildest, you are the most seductive and delicious thing that we will ever see today.

Amazing isn’t it? Now go out there and do your duty. Exist and inspire. Fierce up!

Erzullie is an invite-only fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Get invited: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE POWER: THE ACCOMPLISHMENT GAME

It’s almost the end of the year, ladies. And it’s that time again where people are freaking out on where “time went by” and how much they feel that they have done nothing great with their lives. And even if to some, that may ring true, I want to calm the minds and nerves of my Erzulliestas. I am here to tell you right now --- yes, my dear --- you have accomplished a lot.

I would always see an Erzulliesta working her ass off in the office. So just because you didn’t get a promotion or you are still in the same spot, in the same job, whatever cubicle, office, café, style studio or bedroom you are in, I want to shove it to your face (for consideration) that you have managed to maintain a job for a year (or even more). So give yourself a pat at the back.

Some people got fired this year. Some people quit their job this year and some (dare we say it) lost their passion for it. So if you are able to maintain where you are at least, rest assured that you are as fierce as the first time you felt like you were on top of the world when you got that job.

So, you’re still not yet married (if you did, congratulations!). Congratulations in being fabulously single! Rest assured some married women are looking at you know and being a bit envious of your single freedom --- do whatever you want, whenever you want.

And since you are single, you have a lot of time. You don’t know it but you have invested time to the people that you love, things that you do care about and above all? Got to know yourself even more throughout the year. Go ahead. Reflect. I double dare you. You are not the person you were last year.

Now, we turn to the “B” word --- the baby word. Even if you do not have a baby yet, rest assured my dear that you have went through a great ordeal. You may not be carrying another life in your tummy, but you have your whole lifestyle to care for, work for and maintain. Still sounds like a baby you need to attend to right?

And with this, I would like to say. Dear Erzulliestas, keep those blues away. You have accomplished a lot this year and don’t you even dare think that you didn’t. After all, the best accomplishment that you have right now is the fact that you are still here. Reading this blog post. And knowing that at the end of the day, you lived your life just like everyone else. And just like everyone else --- yours is special.

Cheers!

Erzullie is an invite-only fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Get invited: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE DATING: THE RISE OF THE FUN 30-SOMETHING SINGLE LADIES

“I am almost 30. I wrote down the things that I want to do before I get to that age and all that I saw was travel, more savings, career and shopping.” This is what my friend kind of said in a group conversation. Then she asked the question that all 30-something single ladies have asked since time started --- is there something wrong with me?

Of course, me and my women rushed in to put her perspective in place. We all told her that it’s normal. In fact, even the ones who were taken, chimed in on how they would view their “single” life, if ever.

One of my girls said she would travel around the world, go through expensive hotels “until where her money would take her”. We are talking about highly independent women in this group, so I can actually see it happening.

Then it just occurred to me. All of us in the group has a clear picture of what we would look like single. And it’s not a sad “huhu I am forever alone” kind of set-up. It was full of friends, fashion, destinations, adventures and misadventures.

After the long talk and exchange of views, my friend felt better on her decision to be a fun, career-filled, travelling, 30-something single.

Then this question popped up --- Is there a rise of the new 30-something single ladies that is actually fun and NOT scary? And better question --- since when was it considered bad to be one anyway?

I will always remember that time when I saw an old classmate of mine. She was carrying her kids with her and she saw me. I tried to avoid her, given that we never really had the best time together in school, but she waved and said her “pleasantries”. I smiled and respectfully acknowledged her.

Then, quick as a lightning, she asked me why am I fat and why am I NOT MARRIED.

Seems like old habits of passive aggressive bullying do not die easily on this one. But before I brought my sass out, I saw her as a whole.

While she was asking me this question, she was pushing a baby carriage with a baby in it, while carrying a toddler, the oldest was just walking but stuck on his phone, while the other one was another toddler who was pulling on her top to be picked up. Aside from that, she had 2 baby bags to manage.

She looked like she lacked sleep. Stress was written all over her eyes and if those dark circles can go any deeper, it would go through the back of her skull.

I actually felt sorry for her.

I offered my help to pick one of the toddlers up and I started helping her take care of the kids while she waits for her… well whatever appointment she had with that day.

This is where all of the 30-something single ladies feel bad about. It is not seeing women their age having babies, it’s the 30-something women of their age, shaming the single ones for “being single and actually loving it”.

We all hear it almost everywhere. When you say you have hit the big 3-0, people are asking, “why are you not married yet?”, “do you have a boyfriend?”, “shouldn’t you be settling down?” --- like you haven’t grown up, if you have not successfully bagged a relationship.

But you know what’s the secret, ladies?

Putting that toddler down and knowing that you have a great afternoon of non-married bliss ahead of you. You may not be married right now, but you got amazing set of friends who will enjoy the ride of being a powerful, non-married female with you. You may not have a boyfriend right now, but you got the whole city to date and explore. Your social list is so open that you are about to meet a lot of great people and effortlessly, without even expecting it --- one day --- your lover is just there.

So enjoy the rise of the new 30-something single ladies! Don’t be ashamed to live your life the way you see it fit. Kids or no kids. Married or not married. The point is, you will go to bed knowing that you HAVE LIVED YOUR LIFE and not what people expect you to be. There is nothing wrong with being 30 and single, as much as being married before or after that fact.

Living your life is an equal game for all ages. So go on, have fun and play! And make sure that the rise of the fun 30-something single ladies is not a trend but here to stay!

Erzullie is an invite-only fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE STYLE: TASK OF THE WEEK...

Go wild on it. Nail art perhaps?

Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com

PLUS SIZE POWER: TODAY I...

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Cheers!

Erzullie is a fierce plus size fashion designer brand from the Philippines dedicated to serving the style of the empowered Erzulliesta. Shop online: www.erzullie.com